So, you’re sitting there searching the Internet how to get over your ex? Seriously, do NOT do this. There comes a time where you have to reset yourself. When it comes to break ups, you MUST reset yourself.
I’m not going to tell you how to get over your ex, what I DO want to tell you is how to get over YOURSELF. We spend so much time with ourselves alone that we miss out on giving other people the benefit of our presence. Remember when your ex admired your presence? Well, there are others who would love to be in your presence. Make your presence known, and let them enjoy yours.
The hardest part about a break up is, it seems like the shitty feelings you had towards that person seem to go away and you start thinking about the good times together. WHY? Because as women our hearts are forgiving. This time, when you feel vulnerable and want to contact your ex, do yourself a favor and DON’T. You have to get rid of the memories, good and bad. Refocus your thoughts on things that make you happy. I know, it’s hard to do because we’re so used to feeling miserable about the break up that we feel comfortable feeling miserable. Remember, misery loves company…and it’s time to get new friends…happiness.
Don’t go looking at their Facebook posts, DO block them from your page. Don’t keep looking at your phone to see if they texted you, THEY WON’T, don’t call them to see if they answer their phone, because it DOESN’T matter anymore. For God’s sake stop trolling their Facebook friends to see what posts they commented on or “Liked”, again who cares? If they are your ex, they need to stay your ex. Any little sign of them being interactive with someone else will only leave you feeling miserable.Remember, misery loves company? Stop letting yourself feel miserable!
Do you honestly, think you were put on this planet to feel miserable? I know I wasn’t. We are meant to be happy…so go be happy. Do whatever you need to do to be happy. Remember, revenge is not being happy, never try to get revenge on an ex, why give them the satisfaction you still care? Because do you really care about someone who hurt you? Think about that. Also, stop calling psychics, to see if you’re going to get back together. Stop looking for “signs” that it’s meant to be. The only reason we see “Signs” is because they are on our minds. THAT’S IT! It has nothing to do with what is meant to be. If it was meant to be, you’d still be together.
Start building a relationship with yourself. Enjoy the person you were before the breakup. If you didn’t like yourself before your break up, than this is YOUR time to finally try new things and get out there. Your ex has already moved on, why shouldn’t you? By moving on, I mean, not finding someone right away, find YOURSELF first. Love will come at the right time for you, it always does. The same way it found you when you first started dating your ex, it will find you again. Let your ex be your ex and let YOURSELF be YOU. There’s only one YOU but there are many ex’s.
I hope when you read this, it gave you some insight and some thought. Whether you agree with me or not, just know…you are NOT alone.
Until Next Time,
Very good stuff to ponder. It all makes sense to me>
I really enjoy your style of writing. It's too bad things didn't work out between you and him. I always thought you two were meant to be with one another. I love reading your posts on Facebook too. I hope you are enjoying your new found freedom.
I agree. Great stuff. One of the wonders of life, is what happens next. Although we influence what happens next by how we deal with the now. So be present and available in the now and the next with be a pleasant surprise.
Hi Anonymous,Thanks for visiting my blog and commenting. I get a lot of private emails (comments who wish not to be published) who offer such great advice and understanding. Many of these unpublished comments are from women who are going through the same as me. It's nice to know there is a support system out there, even if you have never met each other. Question, if we truly are supposed to live in the “here and now” and “be present” then why do we live in fear of commitments? Commitments are based on the future. No? I think you just gave me an inspiration to write tonight, thank you. 🙂
I just read your message, which I inspired. It is good to see I inspired you. You are correct. The present comes and goes as quick as a blink of an eye. being present in the here and now is still very relevant. It allows one to make memories of the past without the darkened clouds of history effecting our perception. EASIER SAID THAN DONE. BTW I appreciate your service. I hope you have a peacefull day. Respectfully 🙂
Thank you for your comment. You're very insightful. It's been getting easier every day. Trying to be present and not taking things for granted. I think I did that in my recent past relationship. Truth be known we both did. Moving forward for me now is a journey I'm looking forward to.